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Mr Bean’s first crossdressing out

Mr Bean is a television film series that is very popular. Especially to the people who likes comedy. The actor's name is Rowan Atkinson. He also played in cinema movies .

But do you know that he once tried to do crossdressing in his television film series ? In the video above you can see he tried to do crossdressing in a laundry by wearing a maxi skirt.

Actually he did it  incidentally. He  took the wrong piece after he put of his own pants, because he took it without seeing it. Unfortunately, a man was there  near him. So he tried to walk with legs so close to each other. With  purpose to camouflage that he wore a maxi skirt instead of wearing  a pant.

Unfortunately again, the man who near him suspected him, because of the movement that Mr Bean did is  strange. So after Mr Bean sat, the man revealed the bottom ending of maxi skirt that Mr Bean wore. Alas ! And the man smiled and blinked one of his eyes to Mr Bean. Mr Bean got chills  with the way the man looked at him. Not to mention his deed with stepping the underwear that Mr Bean tried to wear.

Truly a terrible experience he had to face. So, next time if you try to crossdress out again please consider the situation and the condition also the place where you try to crossdress out.

Help!

If in my earlier posting I discussed about an ending that can be met in crossdressing habit and also the development of this habit. So in this article I want to discuss what we are going to say if someone who does crossdressing ask us an advice about how should someone do about this habit ?

First,  if someone  ( he ) asks us an advice about something usually he wants to get an opinion that can solve his problem or to get a better way about something that he asks. So did with crossdressing habit that he asks us. Here, the problem begins. Problem of what advice  should we give to him. Because there's more than one alternative advice that we can give him.

The first case, a young crossdresser asks us an advice about crossdressing. He's a beginner crossdresser. He crossdress only with wearing woman dress. Not using woman shoes, accessories, makeup and wig. What advice should we give to him ? Push and support him to do crossdressing more perfectly ? Suggest him to use woman shoes, accessories, makeup and wig ? Because by that way, he may look so perfectly as a woman or at least more perfect. Moreover, he already crossdressed. Even he's just a beginner. So, what else ? Already get wet, why don't  bathe too ? That is what we may suggest if we consider crossdressing as a positive hobby and not a deviant behaviour that needs to be corrected.

But if we consider crossdressing as a deviant behaviour, maybe we may give him different advice. Such as divert your energy into other positive activities and so with your spare time, instead of doing crossdressing. If he is someone who believes, maybe we also remind him to  approach himself to God. This advice looks like more difficult to be said and to be given than the first advice like  at the earlier paragraph. Because he can say that we are hypocrite. Advise the other to decrease or leave this habit, but we ourselves do this habit too. Though we all know that nobody in the world is perfect. In Java, we say  "Gajah diblangkoni. Iso kotbah, orak iso nglakoni". In English, it means "Elephant is given headcloth. Can preach, but can not do it".

More difficult case is if he is someone who is an activist of a religion, but he still does crossdressing. And according to him and the religion in  his understanding, crossdressing  does not conflict with his beliefs. But he asks us an advice about his crossdressing habit. What advice that we can give ? Moreover if he is an activist of a religion and if in this case,  we are less obeyed  in  religion than him. This situation is similar to a Javanese proverb that says "kebo nusu gudel". In English, it means "buffalo breast fed from its child".

Happy ending

At the end they married and live happily ever after. It's a famous sentence that is usually ending a fairy tale. When I was a kid, I still remembered that I often read many comic books from the famous Hans Christian Andersen.

Habit can be a hobby if someone likes that habit. And a hobby can be someone job. If someone has or do a job that's also the hobby of this someone, it can be said that this someone is happy. Because someone can work with happy. And also not under pressure. So that someone  could devote all  energy and thoughts without feeling forced.

What about a habit that called as crossdressing ? This habit can be also called as hobby to some people. Although for other people, this habit can be called as deviant behaviour that needs to be corrected. Even for some people who did this habit, they also can consider it as a deviant behaviour that needs to be corrected. While for the others who also did this habit, they can consider it as a hobby that doesn't need to be corrected. But it even also needs to be improved.

Just like a hobby, then crossdressing can develop too. Maybe for the first time when doing crossdressing, we only used woman dress. Then we began to use woman shoes and accessories. Then finally we used makeup and wig too. Thus, at last we perfected this habit with  things that actually belong to woman from hair to toe.

Side effect of crossdressing that  perfected, someone can change  the gender orientation. A funny thing about this is I ever read a comment in a social network  that someone said "great, you're now a transgender !" to a person  who used to be a crossdresser only. Though not certainly that someone has changed the gender orientation. Maybe someone has looked so perfectly as a woman, but in him self, he still feels as a real  man. Remember an Indonesian proverb that says "dalam laut dapat diduga, dalam hati siapa tahu". In English, it means "the depth of the sea can be guessed, in heart who knows".

The reverse case of above is that someone said "Be careful, don't go any further ! You may become a woman" to a person who crossdress so perfectly. Like a friend of mine told that to me.

But if a person  just does crossdressing in a simple way like just wear a woman dress but without using a woman shoes and makeup, someone else may tempt this person to perfect his crossdressing with a woman shoes and makeup.

But the other way around, crossdressing just like a hobby can end too. I ever read some blogs about someone who succeeded to stop crossdressing.

White shirt with beige skirt

Lari-lari kecil

Beberapa tahun belakangan ini kakiku mudah terasa capai. Jika aku kerja keras sebentar terutama kerja dalam kaadaan tidak duduk, maka kakiku besoknya akan terasa capai. Tapi kemudian secara tidak sengaja aku menemukan solusi pemecahannya. Sebetulnya solusi itu umum dan biasa saja serta mungkin sebagian orang sudah mengetahuinya yaitu bagian kaki yang mudah capai dipijit dengan handuk yang telah dicelupkan ke air panas. Solusi yang lain dipijit dengan minyak pijit. Memang setelah aku melakukan terapi ini, kakiku jadi mendingan dan tidak mudah capai. Terapi ini  ku lakukan hampir tiap hari pagi dan sore.

Tapi ada hal lain yang aneh yang kutemukan  ketika aku sedang berlintas busana dengan rok span panjang yang mirip sarimbit atau jarik. Ketika itu pagi-pagi bangun tidur dan seperti kebiasaanku aku hampir selalu bersih-bersih rumah dalam arti mengelap atau membersihkan perabotan rumah dan jendela serta pintu dengan lap dan kemoceng. Pagi itu ketika bangun tidur, kakiku terasa agak capai. Kupikir nanti siangnya akan jadi capai. Tapi ternyata tidak, malahan rasa capai di kaki selang beberapa waktu kemudian hilang. Akupun berpikir dan kemudian mendapatkan jawabannya. Kemungkinan besar karena waktu itu aku pakai rok span panjang yang kayak jarik dan waktu jalan jika ingin cepat harus berlari-lari kecil. Karena waktu itu memang aku agak terburu-buru.

Ternyata ini bisa jadi terapi yang lain bagiku untuk menghilangkan rasa capai di kaki. Semoga kesimpulan yang ku tarik ini betul. Dan kalau memang betul, maka seperti berenang sambil minum air atau sekali dayung 2 pulau terlewati. Sambil cding bisa olahraga dan badanpun bisa jadi lebih sehat. :)

Start crossdressing

I don't mean to offend or open a confrontation with some certain blogs that have tendencies to invite us to stop crossdressing. But I just want to give some reasons or facts why we start crossdressing. And I will give some considerations.

The beginning is almost all of us who are crossdressing didn't start that habit on purpose. I can't guarantee that all of us didn't start it on purpose. Maybe some did it on purpose. But I read many articles about someone who began crossdressing and they told that they didn't do it on purpose.

From the first event where someone did crossdressing usually comes an impression that made someone curious and had to do it repeatedly until it became addicted. Although when someone finished the ritual of crossdressing, he might  feel of regret and didn't want to try any more. Because of foolish thing that he did or wasted the time with doing crossdressing. Or even felt disgusted with the way he dressed. But in fact, he couldn't help it and he did it repeatedly until the feeling of regret became lessen and even vanished.

Unfortunately, this addiction can be up for years, decades or maybe for a lifetime. This addiction  might be vanished for a certain period, but there's also a possibility  that this addiction came again.

More unfortunately, the one who addicted with this habit  might not feel suffer at all. More unfortunately again, the one who addicted crossdressing can be feel comfortable with this habit.

More than that, someone who addicted crossdressing can love this habit and proud of this habit. Even want to share this habit with other people. If this case is disease, it's like a disease that can be spreads and transmitted. It can influence someone whose at the stadium of beginning to know crossdressing become  want to know more about it  and want to try it more intensively.

Finally, someone with this addiction could change his orientation about his own gender and want to be a female.  After experienced dressing with woman dress, wore makeup and trying to behave like a woman.

At the end, maybe we want to get some help to cure us from this habit. So we turn to the religion  that we believe. Unfortunately again, some churches even tolerate this habit and they also even wed lesbian or gay couple. In another religion but almost similar case,  the first Islamic school specifically for transgender people to pray and study the Quran already opened in Yogyakarta in 2008. ( http://www.japantimes.co.jp )